Comments on: HEART OF A 13-YEAR OLD http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/ half-Corean dad, doc, artist who is not afraid of going to Hell Sat, 17 May 2008 15:25:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: HCG http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-337 HCG Sat, 17 May 2008 05:00:47 +0000 http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-337 Hi -- a little late to the party on this one --- I just had a convo about this very subject with a very good friend of mine, actually it's like chapter 1000 or so of an ongoing venting session. Families are unwieldy cliques when they get too big, IMHO. As for freezing out family members -- how about being on the recipent of that because your own parents are the ones doing it? Like for years? Um, meet my life. So now suddenly there's this mad scramble to try to connect on the part of my mom b/c without her, any access to extended family will pretty much go up in smoke. Yah, I'll cope, somehow. Hi — a little late to the party on this one — I just had a convo about this very subject with a very good friend of mine, actually it’s like chapter 1000 or so of an ongoing venting session. Families are unwieldy cliques when they get too big, IMHO.

As for freezing out family members — how about being on the recipent of that because your own parents are the ones doing it? Like for years? Um, meet my life. So now suddenly there’s this mad scramble to try to connect on the part of my mom b/c without her, any access to extended family will pretty much go up in smoke. Yah, I’ll cope, somehow.

]]> By: scott http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-55 scott Tue, 11 Mar 2008 23:00:23 +0000 http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-55 Gocatgo, amen to that. I've always really liked your name, as I've said before. Gocatgo, amen to that. I’ve always really liked your name, as I’ve said before.

]]> By: gocatgo http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-50 gocatgo Mon, 10 Mar 2008 19:44:37 +0000 http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-50 Love the new site and glad to see you updating more often. I say don't ever feel guilt about the family thing, it just isn't worth your time. People make choices and there isn't enough time to do everything you really *want* to do much less things you really don't want to do. Love the new site and glad to see you updating more often. I say don’t ever feel guilt about the family thing, it just isn’t worth your time. People make choices and there isn’t enough time to do everything you really *want* to do much less things you really don’t want to do.

]]> By: scott http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-39 scott Sun, 09 Mar 2008 19:01:41 +0000 http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-39 Hi Anna, I guess since I am always seeing someone of Amy's family every other day, I don't know what it is to miss them. Hey Cindy, thank you. Are you back from Taiwan already? Hi Anna, I guess since I am always seeing someone of Amy’s family every other day, I don’t know what it is to miss them.

Hey Cindy, thank you. Are you back from Taiwan already?

]]> By: cyn http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-37 cyn Sun, 09 Mar 2008 04:21:28 +0000 http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-37 love the new layout, scott! you're adorable in that last foto! love the new layout, scott!

you’re adorable in that last foto!

]]> By: enygma http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-35 enygma Sat, 08 Mar 2008 03:03:03 +0000 http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-35 Hey Scott! Family is always tough. I have one of those typical Korean families (large, loud) and I sometimes feel like the odd one out. Still, I kind of regret not going back home during this upcoming break and can't wait until this summer. However, I think my uncle (who married my mom's sister) is in an uncomfortable spot. He's literally a redneck from the south who loves to hunt and fish. I'm pretty sure he feels awkward when he comes to visit us with his wife, but he still sucks it up and does. Hey Scott!
Family is always tough. I have one of those typical Korean families (large, loud) and I sometimes feel like the odd one out. Still, I kind of regret not going back home during this upcoming break and can’t wait until this summer.
However, I think my uncle (who married my mom’s sister) is in an uncomfortable spot. He’s literally a redneck from the south who loves to hunt and fish. I’m pretty sure he feels awkward when he comes to visit us with his wife, but he still sucks it up and does.

]]> By: scott http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-34 scott Fri, 07 Mar 2008 23:57:40 +0000 http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-34 Jamie: Yeah, your comment about sympathy kind of nails it for me. Aein: This is a picture of my mom in 1999. She looks the same now except a little fatter. She reminds me of a shorter, more Asian, William Shatner (the Boston Legal one). <img src="http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/wp-content/uploads/2005/05/weddingtrio.jpg" alt="Me, mom, my brother in 1999 (my wedding)" /> My mom doesn't care about how she looks these days (she did dress up for my wedding though). She's very practical and earthy in her old age, unlike her speed-racing wilder beehive days. Jamie: Yeah, your comment about sympathy kind of nails it for me.

Aein: This is a picture of my mom in 1999. She looks the same now except a little fatter. She reminds me of a shorter, more Asian, William Shatner (the Boston Legal one). Me, mom, my brother in 1999 (my wedding)

My mom doesn’t care about how she looks these days (she did dress up for my wedding though). She’s very practical and earthy in her old age, unlike her speed-racing wilder beehive days.

]]> By: Aein http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-33 Aein Thu, 06 Mar 2008 10:55:18 +0000 http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-33 i am absolutely in love with your mother's hair. you need to post some photos of her now. :) for me, old family photos make things just seem happier than all of my memories of childhood combined. it's really interesting to see your photos, as a fellow corean hapa, i really enjoyed this post. i am absolutely in love with your mother’s hair. you need to post some photos of her now. :)

for me, old family photos make things just seem happier than all of my memories of childhood combined.

it’s really interesting to see your photos, as a fellow corean hapa, i really enjoyed this post.

]]> By: Jamie http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-32 Jamie Thu, 06 Mar 2008 00:37:35 +0000 http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-32 Every family is different. I guess you learn to love what you have, and after a while, it's hard to change. My family has been through it's ups and downs, and sticking to it through that is hard, and for some, impossible. I would not have much sympathy for a family that cut me off as a child, and left my widowed mother to grieve alone. But, then, that's me. One thing my family DID teach me is a memory of grudges. Every family is different. I guess you learn to love what you have, and after a while, it’s hard to change. My family has been through it’s ups and downs, and sticking to it through that is hard, and for some, impossible. I would not have much sympathy for a family that cut me off as a child, and left my widowed mother to grieve alone.

But, then, that’s me. One thing my family DID teach me is a memory of grudges.

]]> By: scott http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-31 scott Wed, 05 Mar 2008 02:41:57 +0000 http://www.medeasmemoirs.com/2008/03/04/heart-of-a-13-year-old/#comment-31 Bonnie: I can't believe you just said "Heaven's To Betsy." But I think you are right about everything you just said, good and bad. Sil in Corea: It's hard not to like my favorite uncle and aunt, the ones who actually found us again. Our uncle actually shared some track & field stories with my brother Mark. My brother ran in high school. My uncle still competes in geriatric track & field events now (not kidding). I guess I could talk to him about his prostate hypertrophy.... Btw, your screenname always makes me smile. Jenna: Hey Jenna! I like your headlamp pic on your site. It looks like you are spelunking. :-) Halfy79: I had to look up John & Kate +8. Amy's and my show would be called "Two Is Enough." Dongseng: :-))))))) ... I haven't really written anything about my brother but yes he got married over a year ago. His wife conceived on their honeymoon, hahha! And now they have a beautiful BLUE-EYED 7-month old quarter-Corean girl. We think the blue eyes are temporary, or maybe she's going for the K-pop diva look already. Sara: Deep down I know you are right, but knowing myself, whatever relationship I have with that family will be superficial at best. I'm selfish about my feelings and my time; they're reserved for my immediate family. As for the fights, mishaps, and sabotage, my mom pretty much covers those bases. There's a 90% chance of F-bombs flurries whenever she comes to visit. :-) Bonnie: I can’t believe you just said “Heaven’s To Betsy.” But I think you are right about everything you just said, good and bad.

Sil in Corea: It’s hard not to like my favorite uncle and aunt, the ones who actually found us again. Our uncle actually shared some track & field stories with my brother Mark. My brother ran in high school. My uncle still competes in geriatric track & field events now (not kidding). I guess I could talk to him about his prostate hypertrophy…. Btw, your screenname always makes me smile.

Jenna: Hey Jenna! I like your headlamp pic on your site. It looks like you are spelunking. :-)

Halfy79: I had to look up John & Kate +8. Amy’s and my show would be called “Two Is Enough.”

Dongseng: :-))))))) … I haven’t really written anything about my brother but yes he got married over a year ago. His wife conceived on their honeymoon, hahha! And now they have a beautiful BLUE-EYED 7-month old quarter-Corean girl. We think the blue eyes are temporary, or maybe she’s going for the K-pop diva look already.

Sara: Deep down I know you are right, but knowing myself, whatever relationship I have with that family will be superficial at best. I’m selfish about my feelings and my time; they’re reserved for my immediate family. As for the fights, mishaps, and sabotage, my mom pretty much covers those bases. There’s a 90% chance of F-bombs flurries whenever she comes to visit. :-)

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